A few months back I lost a friend closer than most for reasons that could have been avoided. I admit I did some... well a lot of dumb things that resulted in him hating me and honestly I don't blame him.
Its weird how the reason he hates me today is no long a factor in my life.
You know how everyone has that one person in life that knows partially everything about you, what you thought when you did stuff... why you did stuff and what you thinking and doing every minute without you saying a word. That scary type of mind reading stuff you know.
He warned me against stuff and told me don't get involved and he was right, I gave me advise that came second to none and he stood by whatever decisions I made in life. He was that support that every girl ever wanted in life.
You know you got a great friend when you can call him/her up at any hour of the night for any stupid thing, the type of friend that wants you to wake them up when you feeling down or blue, the type of friend that would leave whatever they doing just to be there for you in times that you need em. That was the type of friend he was.
There were many things he taught me during the time that we were friends. He would look me in the eyes and say "Babybear, follow your heart, if it feels right... damn it probably is, go with your gut, stand for what you believe and chase what you want in life. Take responsibility for your actions and most importantly for yourself"
Today I want to answer those 3 things...
My 3 words: I am sorry
My 2 regrets: Hurting you & walking away
My 1 lesson learnt: No one compares to you
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
A Lesson from a guy I know
Many years ago I met this guy and we became rather close to the point that Id receive an sms from him every morning without fail and he would recieve one from me every evening without fail. This continued for a good year.
He always painted this picture of the perfect wife for him and he described her as follows."Ayesha my future wife has to have three qualities, just three, nothing more" I kept saying what a simple guy he is and that hes too serious about these things at such a young age but he would continue saying;
"1. Shes got to be able to cook and bake very well, you know how I love my good food."
Id laugh coz he gets excited for supper time coz his mom is whipping up a storm.
"2. She has to respect my family, you see Ayesha, I grew up in a home where respect was key and I want nothing less from her and for her"
"3. She has to laugh at my crappy jokes, I just want to see her smile and know that shes happy even if its just for those few moments"
As time went on, he wanted to marry me but the problem is that I couldnt cook though I could bake. He was willing to compromise that one factor. I felt I was too young to take such a decision and say yes that I want to marry him or get married in general at that age.
As time went by we grew apart and our friendship came to a sad end.
A year ago I learnt of his current life. He never settled for less than he wanted, he got exactly the type of girl he deserved, shes everything he always told me he wants with more than those 3 main qualities.
The lesson I learnt from him was that you should never settle for anything less than you believe you deserve and want in life, a higher power out there is ready to grant you all that you believe you deserve, you just got to keep your eye on the end goal, don't settle and never give up but what goes hand in hand with that is believing that everything happens for a reason.
If you learn anything from this I want it to be that no matter who or what comes along, DON'T COMPROMISE and DON'T SETTLE for second best or for what comes CLOSE to what you want, only settle for what you want and what you believe you deserve.
"You cannot join the dots looking forward, you can only join the dots looking backwards" - Steve Jobs
He always painted this picture of the perfect wife for him and he described her as follows."Ayesha my future wife has to have three qualities, just three, nothing more" I kept saying what a simple guy he is and that hes too serious about these things at such a young age but he would continue saying;
"1. Shes got to be able to cook and bake very well, you know how I love my good food."
Id laugh coz he gets excited for supper time coz his mom is whipping up a storm.
"2. She has to respect my family, you see Ayesha, I grew up in a home where respect was key and I want nothing less from her and for her"
"3. She has to laugh at my crappy jokes, I just want to see her smile and know that shes happy even if its just for those few moments"
As time went on, he wanted to marry me but the problem is that I couldnt cook though I could bake. He was willing to compromise that one factor. I felt I was too young to take such a decision and say yes that I want to marry him or get married in general at that age.
As time went by we grew apart and our friendship came to a sad end.
A year ago I learnt of his current life. He never settled for less than he wanted, he got exactly the type of girl he deserved, shes everything he always told me he wants with more than those 3 main qualities.
The lesson I learnt from him was that you should never settle for anything less than you believe you deserve and want in life, a higher power out there is ready to grant you all that you believe you deserve, you just got to keep your eye on the end goal, don't settle and never give up but what goes hand in hand with that is believing that everything happens for a reason.
If you learn anything from this I want it to be that no matter who or what comes along, DON'T COMPROMISE and DON'T SETTLE for second best or for what comes CLOSE to what you want, only settle for what you want and what you believe you deserve.
"You cannot join the dots looking forward, you can only join the dots looking backwards" - Steve Jobs
Monday, June 21, 2010
Philippolis
I visited a small town a few years back and it was a life changing experience for me, below are my thoughts of my trip.
"You don’t know how it is to live from hand to mouth daily.
What’s worse is that you don’t appreciate what you have, you take it all for granted. You criticize the beggar on the street, for not going out there & finding a job. But you don’t realize how difficult it can be! This past weekend I’ve lived in a town with the super rich & with the down and out poor, whom both I’d never look down upon.
I honestly wish you guy could’ve lived the life & see what we saw this past 5 days in Philippolis. To see how people from a small community struggle & and yet still they take in those kids whose parents have died. The stats reveal that more than 100 people die a year because of various reasons.
This has been a lifetime experience, it made me look at my life differently & so far, I’ve changed my outlook on it completely. What I’ve experienced, no one can take away & no one can dare to compare. I stand before you asking you to carry your past & present experiences with you, for you never know when you may need it. As much as I hated the idea of going to a small dorpie like Philippolis, my appreciation for being chosen to represent our school transcends a 1000 time beyond that.
I was stupid enough to take for granted what I had, stupid enough to complain about what my unperfected life, stupid enough not to admit when I was wrong. Where as in this case, I used my intelligence & absorbed every moment I spent in Philippolis. I found that diamond & this small dorpie has dusted & shined it, within the span of 5 days. & Today I stand before you all as a better person coz of this small town & the diamond… it’s within me!"
"You don’t know how it is to live from hand to mouth daily.
What’s worse is that you don’t appreciate what you have, you take it all for granted. You criticize the beggar on the street, for not going out there & finding a job. But you don’t realize how difficult it can be! This past weekend I’ve lived in a town with the super rich & with the down and out poor, whom both I’d never look down upon.
I honestly wish you guy could’ve lived the life & see what we saw this past 5 days in Philippolis. To see how people from a small community struggle & and yet still they take in those kids whose parents have died. The stats reveal that more than 100 people die a year because of various reasons.
This has been a lifetime experience, it made me look at my life differently & so far, I’ve changed my outlook on it completely. What I’ve experienced, no one can take away & no one can dare to compare. I stand before you asking you to carry your past & present experiences with you, for you never know when you may need it. As much as I hated the idea of going to a small dorpie like Philippolis, my appreciation for being chosen to represent our school transcends a 1000 time beyond that.
I was stupid enough to take for granted what I had, stupid enough to complain about what my unperfected life, stupid enough not to admit when I was wrong. Where as in this case, I used my intelligence & absorbed every moment I spent in Philippolis. I found that diamond & this small dorpie has dusted & shined it, within the span of 5 days. & Today I stand before you all as a better person coz of this small town & the diamond… it’s within me!"
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